Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Attracting a Man (It Isn't ALL About Sex)

Men have a reputation for being the owners of one track minds. It may be true that guys have a different outlook than women on sex-related issues, but there’s no reason to believe that attracting a man is all about sex or sex appeal. In fact, recent studies are telling a very different story.

Guys might froth at the mouth every time they see Angelina Jolie and may be the driving force behind a multi-billion dollar “adult entertainment” industry, but don’t let those attributes fool you. When it comes to finding someone to love, it isn’t all about sex for most men.

A recent Grazia magazine poll found that men valued a great smile and a winning personality over a supermodel’s build by a huge margin. A surprising sixty percent of the gentleman polled reported that they’d feel more comfortable with the “girl next door type” than they would having a Playboy centerfold on their arm.

Essence magazine teamed up with AOL to poll a thousand black men about their interests in women. Not only did the guys dismiss the idea that “thin is in,” they also shed a great deal of light on the perceived role of sex in a happy relationship. Men are willing to wait for sex in a relationship and more than ten percent of them don’t even list sex as an important factor in a long term, married relationship.

Those two surveys are only the beginning. We have created a mythology of the sex-driven male, but we lack real data to support the conclusion. Every time a researcher or pollster actually takes the time to find out what a man really wants, the evidence seems to fly in the face of the conventional “one track mind” assumption.

If attracting a man isn’t all about physical factors, what does matter? To get the answer to that question, you have to get past the myth and start digging deeper. For instance, do you know how much difference your career aspirations may have in attracting a man? How about your perspective toward religion? Things like that make a huge difference in men’s perception about the fairer sex. What women don’t think about it often more important than what they mistakenly believe men are obsessing over. If you want to understand what attracts a guy, you need to know how men feel about things like work, family, religion and political involvement.

If you aren’t sure about the way men see those things, the good news is that you don’t have to really on women’s instinct or pure guesswork. Polls, research, studies and other carefully-crafted informational materials can give you a good look at how men really think and how they really decide who’s attractive and who isn’t.

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