Wednesday, December 13, 2006

How to Attract a Men (Don't Believe the Hype)

Women who want to know how to attract men need to look past common stereotypes and misperceptions. The common myths about male interests and desires create a poorly focused image of the male population and what guys really find interesting about women.

If you are on the prowl for a man, you’ve probably given at least a little thought to what men want in a woman. If you’re like most women, you didn’t hold those thoughts too long, though. After all, you all know what a guy wants, right?

You’ve been taught since childhood that guys are after one thing and one thing only. You’ve been warned again and again about their one track minds. You know that looks trump smarts every time and that a short skirt is a recipe for man-attracting success if you can get your legs supermodel thin and tan. You know what a guy wants. You know how to attract men.

Time to burst the bubble. You don’t.

The common stereotype is convenient and easy. It also has some basis in fact. There’s no reason to lie. Men do have sex drives and a gorgeous pin-up will inevitably get more attention walking down the street than will the average Jane Doe. That much is true. The error comes when that attention is confused with real attraction. If you can get past the myths, you’ll find that attracting men has less to do with a wiggle in the walk than it does with a host of other factors.

If you find that hard to believe, just start asking guys what they really want. If you don’t have time or motivation to conduct your own extensive interview, see what others have learned. Grazia magazine polled men and found that the perfect woman was curvy, not boyish. Over half of the guys said they were more comfortable with the girl next door than they could be with a bombshell. They preferred good smiles and the right personality to D-cups and short skirts by an astounding majority.

An Essence magazine poll revealed that more than three out of four guys weren’t interested in the runway model look. Their poll also indicated that the oft-cited one-track mind is actually a multi-lane freeway. A host of factors influenced what men found attractive. Things you might not ever considered played a role in the male outlook toward women.

If you’d like to know how to attract a man, you need to start by understanding how men really think. If you remain committed to the incorrect stereotypical perspective on male desire and attraction, you’ll be fighting an uphill struggle. Women who take the time to learn about men and what makes them tick will invariably do better at finding a partner than adherents to the stereotype.

Check out Cucan Pemo's highly-regarded "500 Secrets About Men" to get a glimpse into the male mind and to find ways to land Mr. Right without being forced into a pair of fishnets or impossibly high heels. Right now, Cucan is giving away free sample materials to anyone who wants them.

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